Gary I. Kodani
September 19, 1948 – October 11, 2008
On August 11, 2008, Gary Kodani came to the realization that he didn’t think he had more than 2 months to live. He made a personal decision to stop pursuing treatment for cancer. He said he would rather die from the cancer than the chemotherapy treatments. Gary and his wife contacted Kaua`i Hospice and hospice care was started in their home on August 19, 2008.
The cancer was in both lungs and had spread to his bones. Gary’s loss of appetite and weight loss had weakened him, but he looked forward to regaining his appetite and the opportunity to rest comfortably at home as opposed to the hospital. The nurses at Kaua`i Hospice were diligent in trying to balance Gary’s pain medication and his desire to be lucid. They were amazed at the peace Gary had about death and how he wanted to have full control of how he spent this time. They honored his wishes and gave him control over his own plan of care.
Gary enjoyed having visitors and spending time with his children when they returned home at the end of August. He always had specific intentions to impart words of encouragement in their lives or peace about his death. Kaua`i Hospice helped Gary and his wife manage the stress of having so many visitors, as well as cope with the day to day demands of Gary’s care.
Gary’s sense of humor and ability to laugh at himself was a blessing to all who knew him. When Gary lost his feelings in his legs and was no longer able to control them or feel anything below his waist, life became more challenging, but more intimate than ever before.
Gary and his wife shared many special moments like this and are thankful for the many friends and family who have helped them along this journey. They are especially thankful to the nurses and staff at Kaua`i Hospice whose compassion and kindness gave them the physical, emotional and spiritual support they needed as Gary went home to be with his Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.